Written by the Witty Fashion Guru: Oni Rovatti
If you’re going to take dozens of photos and be the star of your social media site this Holiday Season, keep in mind that your friends and fans will be scrutinizing your imagery from every possible angle. And by angle, we mean Facebook and Instagram. We all saw your posts from Halloween where you obviously threw on your shortest mini-dress from “Forever 21”, donned a headband with cat ears and went to a party. You thought it was clever, sexy, naughty. We thought it lacked imagination and made you appear cheap and ridiculous. FAIL! Most of us are older than 21, dress with some class and confidence already. The good news is you can delete those embarrassing posts and make a better impression on your friends and colleagues this Holiday Season. You can’t afford it you say? Oh yes you can baby.
In order to look your best and enjoy every social occasion of the season, you need to be free of any and all anxiety or discomfort. That’s what gets you noticed. You are the woman talking, laughing, dancing, and cavorting throughout the night. They can’t take their eyes off you. Your face, your voice, and your spirit snatch all the attention.
“Let’s start from the foundation…”
You do amazing things everyday without giving what you’re wearing a second thought. You know how to get through the work week, you know what makes you feel and look good while conquering the world, so don’t over complicate your “special occasion” wardrobe.
Wear a dress, for Pete’s Sake! It’s like putting on a t-shirt. Keep it simple and elegant. Don’t try to over do it with complicated straps and belts. You should be wearing the dress, the dress should not be wearing you.
“If it cuts, binds, shows bulges, bags, or shifts, don’t wear it.”
Find a style that makes you feel like you could overthrow a government and rule a country.
“Make sure you can put it on and forget about it.”
Minimize the need for complicated undergarments ( these will wreck your vibe, big time!) and be free to express your personal style and charisma. Shapewear undergarments like Spanks or Yummie Tummie are literally designed to Compress you. Quite frankly, I don’t want to be compressed while I’m being fabulous!
“I want to move like a cat, dance, flirt, and swing from the chandelier. That would be impossible in a ‘girdle’. So minimize the stiff, un-fun, undergarment. Stick to what you wear everyday; your bra and panties.”
Be respectful of your hosts and other party guests. Too much of your exposed flesh can be disturbing to some people. Keep it PG! Holiday parties are often multi-generational. If you bare your shoulders, cover your legs, if you show off your legs, cover your torso. It’s as simple as that. Always leave them wanting more.
Making a positive, lasting, impression begins with self respect. So, don’t be the woman who’s tugging at her ridiculously short hemline when she sits. Don’t pluck at the top of your strapless gown and wriggle uncomfortably. This isn’t attractive.
Don’t be overly ambitious, says Oprah.
I’ve seen some Facebook posts that actually show the pain of over-ambitious footwear. It’s horribly embarrassing to watch you hobble to your car at the end of the night, dreadful to witness your date attempt to carry you, and your girlfriends are fed up with having to ‘wait up’ while you shuffle to the next party . Take a tip from Oprah Winfrey:
“Rate each pair of shoes that you own on a time scale.”
For instance: Those 4” Manolo’s are 10 minute shoes. Useful for photo opportunities and ‘sit-down’ occasions only. Those 2” Strappy Aerosole Evening Sandals are 8 hour power-houses, you can be on your feet all night. Make a concerted effort to have a well stocked footwear wardrobe. Don’t purchase shoes on looks alone, you’ll never wear them. In the back of your mind you know what your feet want, you know how long you’re going to be standing, dancing, etc. Make this the one thing you do right for the rest of your life.
Last words of Party-Girl Advice.
I’ll leave you with one last bit of ‘Party-Girl Advice”; Know what you’re signing up for.
When you’re invited to a party, do some research about the event. Find out if it’s a cocktail party/mixer (you’ll be on your feet) or a formal dinner (you’ll be on your feet, then on your tush), a casual house party (you’re likely to be tipsy and flirty). This way you can plan an appropriate outfit. Getting the exact address to the party is a ‘must’ as well. Hotel, Restaurant, Office, Private Home, this info has an effect on what you wear. There is an unspoken, social protocol to each individual to each individual occasion and we’re here to help.